Guerilla Women

I see a generation of children being raised by renegade women.

Although Adam was 1st we have to reproduce through the woman. Mothers that are not raising boys properly because the men they choose for fathers are not husbands, leaving their children without leaders in the home. So women can't even find good men anymore because they are not producing good men out of biblical family structures. So the problem today are woman their philosophies on life and her choices of who she reproduces with and how she cultivates the off spring of the men she chooses. Until this is corrected evil generations will continue to thrive. Those children grow up to become tomorrows fathers & mothers with no knowledge of God or examples of Family

Out-Manning your Man

From Rori Raye & Divine Caroline

Are you a woman with a lot going for her in all areas except in love and relationships? Do men stop calling or withdraw after a few dates or tell you they’re not interested or don’t feel the right chemistry with you?

Your intelligence and ambition may have gotten you where you are in your life and career, but are those same qualities intimidating to men?

The truth is that success and independence are actually attractive qualities to a man. Men are not intimidated by smart women. They can, however, be intimidated and turned off by the way you’re relating to him. You may be failing in love because of your energy, not because you’re smart and have your act together.

One sure way to lose a man’s interest is to make ourselves “smaller” or “less-than” so we don’t intimidate him. We play down our strengths, successes, and abilities because we think that men are competitive and want to be better than we are at everything. It’s simply not true!

If you’re a successful woman, revel in your success and happiness! Run everything at work, be firm, be tough, be managerial and multi-tasking. But when you’re on a date with a man, or at home, or hanging out together, don’t try to run or manage him.

There are subtle ways you may be doing this that completely emasculates a man and makes him feel not only terrible about himself, but turns him away from you. For example, he’ll tell you about a problem he’s having and you say, “You should do this …” or “If I were you, I wouldn’t do that …” This makes him feel managed—like he’s a child and you’re his mother. This isn’t a good feeling for a man. He wants to feel respected and admired, not mothered.

No man wants to be in a relationship with a woman that makes him feel like a child or with a woman who acts very masculine. When you take charge, have opinions about everything—including where you go and what you do—and what you think about him, you are displaying masculine energy.

You can be a doing, thinking, take-charge kind of woman at work, but in your love life, you should be a feeling, being and expressing kind of woman. This relationship enewsletter provides great suggestions for letting him be a man.

You can let a man know what you want and need by simply saying, “I’d like that” or “I don’t want that” or “that would feel good to me.” When he asks you where you’d like to go this weekend, you could say, “It would feel good to me to spend time outside enjoying the sun. I don’t want to stay stuck inside all day.”

Trying to Manage the Relationship
Being a woman means taking charge of your own life, but letting him run the relationship.

If that sounds odd and unfair and plainly not at all about female empowerment. But here’s a new way to look at this: Love isn’t a management opportunity. When a man pulls away from us, going after him and trying to “talk it out” to get him back full-force again is the kiss of death for your relationship, not the spark that will re-ignite it.

Save management for your life outside your relationship with a man—your time, your money, your work, your environment. A man is not a chair. You can’t move him around and decorate him and sit on him and make opinions about him and tell him where to stand and expect him to feel anything but friendship or obligation toward you. That means don’t tell him what he should wear, don’t give him advice on his career, and don’t tell him what he should think about a certain topic.

To love, a man needs to be swimming in a sea of emotion; your emotion, shared willingly and openly. Your feelings are your compass, not your abilities. Your feelings are the most important part of you, the irresistible feminine part of you. Your feelings are what make you loveable and compellingly attractive to a man, especially if you speak about the way you feel and not about what you think.

So, the next time you’re tempted to manage and arrange things—stop yourself. Look inside your heart and body to find and share what you feel instead. Learn how to express yourself to draw him closer.

Doing too MUCH
One drawback to being an accomplished, smart woman is that you know how to get a whole lot done. Often all at the same time. It’s just easier sometimes to do it yourself than to wait for him to do it.

It’s easier to call him and ask him out and get the movie tickets online and make the plans—all so you don’t have to experience the frustration of watching him do a job that’s less well done than how you’d do it.

The cure for this is to learn to be surprised by a man, and not work so hard to make things happen. A woman who’s busy rowing the “rowboat of love” leaves a man with nothing to do. He either sits back and enjoys the ride, or he does what we tell him to do—and I’ve never met a woman who thought either of those were attractive in a man.

So the next time you’re tempted to pick up those oars and do the work of the relationship—stop yourself. Instead—lean back in that “rowboat of love” and let him row. He will thrive, trust me. Let him decide to row and take the boat where he wants it to go. It’s always your choice to leave if you don’t like where things are going (or not going), but picking up those oars will only sink the boat, and leave you nothing to manage.

I’ve always been a woman who instinctively wants to take charge, and the way I was using those real, genuine strengths was killing my relationships with the men I loved. Over time, I learned how to harness my masculine, take-charge energy to become successful in my work, while basically giving up controlling a man in any way. This is what turned everything around for me nearly overnight. Keep reading to learn how you can do it too.

The 6th House (Health & Work) Of Steve Jobs

This Article is an Observation of Steve Jobs Natal chart which indicates the seasons of Life his personal interest,Challenges & Blessings

From Gurmeet Singh Singh

Steven Jobs (born February 24, 1955, rectified birth time 18:49 PM San Francisco CA), the co-founder and chief executive officer of Apple Inc., has announced again that he is taking a medical leave of absence from Apple Inc. It's the latest chapter in the visionary CEO's tale of health woes, a story that began in 2004. Steve Jobs health has many Apple followers uneasy about their future.

Disease is judged from the sign on the cusp of the 6th house, planets in the 6th house. Planets in any manner connected to the 6th house have to cause disease. Hence in their conjoined periods they produce the results. Steve Jobs is a Leo Ascendant, and the lord of 6th houses of diseases is Saturn. Saturn causes diseases for want of proper nourishment, chronic and lingering ailments, rheumatism, cancer, colds, chills, dull aches, pancreatic cancer, falls, blows, sprains, dislocations, bruises, Bones, joints, teeth, spleen, gall bladder, skin, left ear.

Steve Jobs achieved a very high level of success during Ketu period (1975 to 1982), then Venus period (1982 to 2002) and finally sun period (2002 to 2008). Ketu is very strong in 11th house in Mercury's sign. Venus rules the 10th house of career, and 3rd house of change, that is why during the Venus period there were to many changes in Jobs career. At present Jobs is in Moon period (2008 to 2018). Moon rules the 12th house of hospitalization and is located in 8th house of surgery, and is in the constellation of 6th house of sickness lord Saturn, and Saturn is in 3rd of change. Moon main period has activated the 6th house of sickness, 8th house of surgery, and 12th house of hospitalization in Steve Jobs astrology chart, and the transit Saturn from Virgo is directly aspecting the 12th house lord Moon's natal position. 6th, 8th and 12th houses when activated through Mahadasha and Bhukti always bring health issues, loss of money and decline in career / fortune. Transit Saturn this year is directly opposite the natal position of Moon in Steve Jobs astrology chart. Year 2011, especially the period from March to July will prove very fatal to Steve Jobs longevity, and his golden period is sadly over.

Gurmeet Singh is an internationally acclaimed Astrologer, jyotish with over 20 years of experience as a full time consulting astrologer, jyotish in Vedic Astrology & Indian Astrology. He is a long standing member of the astrological community in the San Francisco, and Beverly Hills California metropolitan areas.

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Jupiters Energy in Cancer

J U P I T E R I N C A N C E R

Ever wonder how Cancers & Sagittarians Make Magnificent Couples?
Heres How ( Sometimes)
Cancer is the sign of home, family, and upbringing. The character you have acquired through your upbringing is ruled by this sign, as well. When you meet some real "characters", they often have Cancer prominent in their charts. Cancerians often love history.

Since Cancer is ruled by the Moon, they can be moody. I have known Cancer women who changed their clothes many times a day, as their moods changed, and one Cancer artist who had an entire color-coded system for recording her moods. I have known Cancer men who dressed like someone out of an historical period. Cancers can be quite loony (especially those born from 1949 to 1956 when Uranus was in Cancer).

Cancer is the sign of home and family -- Cancers tend to be devoted to both. The negative sides of Cancer come about when Cancer is too parochial, too afraid of that which is foreign -- anyone or anything which isn't "familiar" (where familiar comes from the same root as family!). Cancer can be the caring father, but is more often associated with women and motherhood. Cancers often want to feed people and to make them feel "at home".

Jupiter makes people see the larger context -- it's the sign of growth and expansion. Jupiter rules religion, philosophy, and politics. Jupiter also rules over-expansion, snobbery, and greed (it's more negative traits). In terms of nations, Cancer rules nationalistic sentiment and the sense of a homeland. Prominent planets in Cancer signal highly patriotic times.

Jupiter is exalted in Cancer since Jupiter makes Cancer see the larger context and break out of their parochial limitations. Since Jupiter stays in a sign for a year and, therefore, circles the zodiac in 12 years, we can look back to the years when Jupiter was in Cancer to see the patterns.

As we would expect, these periods were good for women's rights -- Jupiter expands the role of women in the society. Everything from Mother's Day to the first woman in the U.S. Senate happened with Jupiter in Cancer.

During these years people cared (Cancer) more (Jupiter) for others. People often broke out of some prejudice or expanded their awareness. Of course, people tend to be more emotional, more interested in home and family. Jupiter in Cancer is the common thought, "my children will be better off than I am".

As an interesting aside, the United States chart for July 4, 1776 has the Sun in Cancer conjunct Jupiter in Cancer. When Jupiter is in Cancer it's the Jupiter return for the United States.

The Feminized Male

From Mary Farrar: Author, Reading Your Male

Young single women today often say to me, “Where are all the ‘manly’ men?”

The relational reluctance among single guys drives them crazy. Many married women express the same kind of frustration over a husband who is ill inclined towards leadership at home or moving intentionally towards them. And mothers are watching their boys grow up in a world woefully lacking in healthy male role models.

So what happened?


Manliness came under heavy assault in three consecutive waves, each crashing one upon the other in a monumental tsunami of change. 1st great wave was the industrial revolution, which removed fathers from a young son’s world and distanced him from his needed male template.

2nd was the feminist revolution (or second wave feminism, a movement taking root in the 1950s and 60s), which degraded manliness and insisted on androgyny—or sameness—between men and women.

3rd was the sexual revolution, which destroyed moral boundaries in sex and led to the culture of divorce.

With that culture came the postmodern mindset, which imposed passivity and denounced the drawing of moral judgments and boundaries. It took a healthy environment in which right and wrong, sin and morality, and good and evil were readily recognized and addressed, and replaced it with an environment in which godly manhood became seen as “uncool,” “imposing,” “harsh” and “insensitive.” Men were no longer emboldened to rise up and counter the evil around them. In reality, postmodernism neutered manliness and turned it to putty.

It is impossible to describe the devastating implications of this last wave upon our men. Not only did the boys of divorced homes grow up wounded and confused, but their template became a predominantly feminine one. The preponderance of their generation of boys found themselves not only surrounded by postmodern thinking, but they were now being reared in a female-dominated world.

The result has been the rise of the feminized male.


Hang in here with me while I briefly explain. If you get this, it will shed light on the guys you date, the men you are married to, and the sons you are raising.

Dr. Steven Clark, in his masterful classic, Man and Woman in Christ, was one of the first to observe this recent loss of manliness, referring to it as “feminization.” Feminization, he explains, is not to be confused with “femininity” or “effeminacy.”

[Pause. As we enter into this discussion, we must allow for certain generalizations. We are not speaking here of temperament. There is much variety arising from temperaments. But normal and healthy masculinity (or femininity) can be characterized by certain overriding tendencies, recognized for centuries and now underscored by modern research. And while these tendencies may show up in different degrees among individuals, they are nonetheless generally true. Back to Clark.]

Clark defines “femininity”: Femininity is a natural womanly quality. A woman is ‘feminine’ when she has an appropriate womanly personality, when her strength, assertiveness, and interests are expressed in a womanly way.6

By womanly personality, Clark is referring to a woman’s natural God-given proclivity towards nurture, sensitivity to people, and gentleness. It is womanly to be more of a responder by nature, to tend towards being more verbally expressive, more driven towards intimacy and connection. And all of these innate traits contribute to our ability to fulfill our natural calling as wives and mothers. It is also womanly to possess a healthy strength and assertiveness, and when these are expressed in the context of genuine femininity, they are a wonderful thing.

Effeminacy is a condition in which a man not only emulates a woman but actually prefers to be one; he is also usually fearful that he cannot successfully be part of a group of men. This is a developmental condition (which we will not take the time to tackle in this book). For now, we only need to know that feminization is not effeminacy.

Feminized men don’t reject being men. In fact, they desire to be manly and respect those who are.

So if feminization is not femininity or effeminacy, what is it? In short, it is an inner worldview propagated by growing up in a woman’s world. Clark explains,

"Feminization is an inward prism, or worldview, in which a man sees things more from a womanly perspective. And it tends to come out most clearly in relationships. It occurs when a boy’s father is absent during the formative years of his life and he is surrounded, influenced, reared, trained, and educated by women who either intentionally or unintentionally shape him into their mold. In such an environment of female domination, a boy’s natural masculine instincts (the drive to be physical and aggressive, to overcome fears, play rough, take risks, and step into confrontation) are either squelched or left to languish. More feminine traits like kindness, sensitivity, gentleness, concern with what others are thinking and feeling (all good traits, in and of themselves) are elevated and become his primary template. As a result, a boy learns to value womanly traits over manly ones and to see and react to the world as a woman tends to see and react to it" (italics mine).

Marion J. Levy, Jr., a sociologist who has studied extensively the effects of this phenomenon on our modern world writes, “Our young are the first people of whom the following can be said: if they are males, they and their fathers and their brothers and sons and all the males they know are overwhelmingly likely to have been reared under the direct domination and supervision of females from birth to maturity. No less important is the fact that their mothers and their sisters and their girl friends and their wives and all of the ladies with whom they have to do, have had to do only with males so reared.

The Controlling & Mistrustful Spouse

From Richard P. Fitzgibbons

Men and women experience great happiness and joy when they find someone to whom they can entrust themselves. This happiness can last in some couples for a lifetime. However, most couples experience conflicts which can temporarily weaken their safe feeling or ability to trust. When trust diminishes, emotional walls unconsciously go up which then limit giving and receiving love. Subsequently, spouses feel less happy and may experience loneliness and irritability toward their spouse. This type of stress also can lead to transitory tendencies to control or to withdraw. Fortunately, damage to trust can be resolved if promptly addressed through a process of understanding, forgiving, seeing the good in one's spouse, and re-committing to trust and to love again.

In contrast to these transitory stresses on marital trust are the serious difficulties which arise when a spouse manifests ongoing controlling and disrespectful behaviors. Unfortunately, not a small number of spouses today bring into their marriages strong selfishness, deep unconscious trust wounds from hurts with a parent or the serious weakness of modeling after a controlling parent which lead them to act in a controlling manner.

The tendency to control a spouse can emerge slowly in response to hurts or character weaknesses or it can be present at the very beginning of a marriage. This serious personality conflict creates a great deal of tension and unhappiness in a married life. The Catechism of the Catholic Church, n. 1606, speaks to this challenge, "Their (marital) union has always been threatened by discord, a spirit of domination, infidelity, jealousy, and conflicts that can scale into hatred and separation."

The ability to trust, that is. to feel safe and secure with one's spouse, is the foundation for giving love as well as for receiving love. Without a strong foundation in trust or without attending to and maintaining trust, a rift can develop in marriages and families. Therefore, trust needs be protected and strengthened at every stage of married life.

Let's look at weaknesses in trusting, which are often unconscious, which are a major cause for controlling behaviors. However, in our clinical experience the most common cause is selfishness. The more a spouse gives into selfishness, the greater the drive to have everything go one's own way and the greater the lack of respect shown to one's spouse.

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What Women Want...

From Don Alexander


What does every woman want? I normally write about a wide-variety of subjects, but tonight this one is really on my heart. Here's what I think every woman wants.

A woman wants a man to listen to her. I mean REALLY listen. Not look around and watch T.V., but listen. She also wants someone she can talk to without him flying off at the handle over every little thing. She wants someone who is patient, firm, and fair with the children, but not abusive or loud.

Every woman wants to be appreciated, respected, and just simply feel that she is something "special." She wants to be accepted for who she is and she doesn't want you to try and change her all the time.

Every woman wants a spiritual leader. This one we men need to work on big time. A woman wants you to take the family to church, to take charge when it comes to prayer, Bible reading, and spiritual matters. A woman wants you to sing, as the scripture says, to continuously encourage one another with psalms,hymns, spiritual songs, and constant awareness of Christ and his presence as Head of the Household.

Every woman wants positive words. I've noticed that my wife brightens up the moment I release a word like: "You sure look pretty today, or wow, you are something special, you look like the queen of England" just to name a few precious statements.

Every woman wants you to stay away from negativity. Give her love, love, love, all day long. Every woman wants you to eat your negative words and release the positive ones. Every woman wants you to treat her as you would want to be treated. Those men out there who are bossing their wives and being too macho, take notice, you are only pushing her further away, not closer to you.

I heard a story recently from a friend who told me about this guy Tony who started making more money and went to the top of his company, only to spend less and less time with his family-true story. Someone here locally with a brand new wonderful home in Rancho Cucamonga, CA near the Victoria Gardens mall. The wife told him "You better start spending more time with me, or else."

Long story short, the man came home one night only to find everything gone. I mean everything. Furniture, phone, you name it. He never saw his kids again and was left with nothing. He forgot to do what every woman wants: pay attention to warning signs.

Let's face it, as my pastor says, we are all "replaceable." None of us are all that and a bag of chips! We must guard our mouths. One of my prayers each day is: "Lord put a guard over my mouth and watch over the door of my lips." It is so important to watch our mouths with our beloved wife.

I believe that every woman wants a man who has vision. A man who will go forward to accomplish goals and dreams. Scripture says "without a vision, the people perish." Forgive me for not citing actual chapter and verse, but the words of our Lord are everlasting nonetheless! There are too many men out there who are satisfied with status quo, when God has promised us that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us!

Every woman wants you to give your all. It's not enough for you to just do "whatever." Women want a visionary who will help the family achieve their every dream and goal. Some women seem to be satisfied with a man who works and brings home a paycheck, and is good to the family. That's fine too.

Every woman wants a working man. If you are self-employed, you must be making over $2500 a month or your just playing. If you are in a home business, that same number applies, again, or your just playing.

Men must work. No doubt about it. Every woman wants a working man. If your not working, no woman wants you. They may say they do, but deep down, they don't.

In conclusion though, every woman wants a MAN. This is someone who will love her, die for her, be playful, curious, and funny with her, make sure that she is taken care of, not speak negatively toward her ever, protect her, do everything that she likes, watch over her, keep her, be best friends with her, make date nights a priority, love the children, but not more than her, love Christ with all his heart, and not just be a Sunday Christian.

She also wants stability. Every woman wants stability financially, spiritually, and socially. She wants someone with dollars and sense, someone who will have knowledge in financial matters, not just pretend. Every woman wants someone who is stable. Don't expect to get an awesome wife if your not stable. Don't expect to get a decent woman if your not stable.

Stable means a lot of things, but every woman wants a MAN who has a good temper, a deep pocketbook and heart, a good name and reputation (single women take note of this list please), not someone who stirs up rumors or talks about people, someone who is kind, a man who is family orientated, a passionate man, a loving man, a man who is on fire for the Lord, not just on Sunday only, a man who would die for her.

Most of all though, every woman wants you to love her and place that love above everything else except God. Also, every woman wants a man who will continue to WORK at the relationship and not quit. By not quitting and working, you are telling her that you love her. Every woman also wants you to keep your word. That means fulfill your vows and do what you say you are going to do. And be there for her days of plenty and days of lack. That's what every woman truly wants.



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Signs Your Spouse is an Emotional Bully

From Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Does your girlfriend or wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?

If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their girlfriend/wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.

Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?

1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.

Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.

2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs. No matter the inconvenience, she comes first. She has an endless list of demands that no one mere mortal could ever fulfill.

Common complaints include: You’re not romantic enough, you don’t spend enough time with me, you’re not sensitive enough, you’re not smart enough to figure out my needs, you’re not making enough money, you’re not FILL IN THE BLANK enough. Basically, you’re not enough, because there’s no pleasing this woman. No one will ever be enough for her, so don’t take it to heart.

Result: You’re constantly criticized because you’re not able to meet her needs and experience a sense of learned helplessness. You feel powerless and defeated because she puts you in no-win situations.

3) Verbal attacks.This is self-explanatory. She employs schoolyard name calling, psychopathologizing (e.g., armed with a superficial knowledge of psychology she uses diagnostic terms like labile, paranoid, narcissistic, etc. for a 50-cent version of name calling), criticizing, threatening, screaming, yelling, swearing, sarcasm, humiliation, exaggerating your flaws, and making fun of you in front of others, including your children and other people she’s not intimidated by. Verbal assault is another form of bullying, and bullies only act like this in front of those whom they don’t fear or people who let them get away with their bad behavior.

Result: Your self-confidence and sense of self-worth all but disappear. You may even begin to believe the horrible things she says to you.

4) Gaslighting. “I didn’t do that. I didn’t say that. I don’t know what you’re talking about. It wasn’t that bad. You’re imagining things. Stop making things up.” If the woman you’re involved with is prone to Borderline or Narcissistic rage episodes, in which she spirals into outer orbit, she may very well not remember things she’s said and done. However, don’t doubt your perception and memory of events. They happened and they are that bad.

Result: Her gaslighting behavior may cause you to doubt your own sanity. It’s crazymaking behavior that leaves you feeling confused, bewildered, and helpless.

5) Unpredictable responses. Round and round and round she goes. Where she’ll stop, nobody knows. She reacts differently to you on different days or at different times. For example, on Monday, it’s ok for you to Blackberry work email in front of her. On Wednesday, the same behavior is “disrespectful, insensitive, you don’t love me, you’re a self-important jerk, you’re a workaholic.” By Friday, it could be ok for you to Blackberry again.

Telling you one day that something’s alright and the next day that it’s not is emotionally abusive behavior. It’s like walking through a landmine in which the mines shift location.

Result: You’re constantly on edge, walking on eggshells, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is a trauma response. You’re being traumatized by her behavior. Because you can’t predict her responses, you become hypervigilant to any change in her mood or potential outburst, which leaves you in a perpetual state of anxiety and possibly fear. It’s a healthy sign to be afraid of this behavior. It’s scary. Don’t feel ashamed to admit it.

6) Constant Chaos. She’s addicted to conflict. She gets a charge from the adrenaline and drama. She may deliberately start arguments and conflict as a way to avoid intimacy, to avoid being called on her bullshit, to avoid feeling inferior or, bewilderingly, as an attempt to avoid being abandoned. She may also pick fights to keep you engaged or as a way to get you to react to her with hostility, so that she can accuse you of being abusive and she can play the victim. This maneuver is a defense mechanism called projective identification.

Result: You become emotionally punch drunk. You’re left feeling dazed and confused, not knowing which end is up. This is highly stressful because it also requires you to be hypervigilant and in a constant state of defense for incoming attacks.

7) Emotional Blackmail. She threatens to abandon you, to end the relationship, or give you the cold shoulder if you don’t play by her rules. She plays on your fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame, values, sympathy, compassion, and other “buttons” to control you and get what she wants.

Result: You feel manipulated, used, and controlled.

8 Rejection. She ignores you, won’t look at you when you’re in the same room, gives you the cold shoulder, withholds affection, withholds sex, declines or puts down your ideas, invitations, suggestions, and pushes you away when you try to be close. After she pushes you as hard and as far away as she can, she’ll try to be affectionate with you. You’re still hurting from her previous rebuff or attack and don’t respond. Then she accuses you of being cold and rejecting, which she’ll use as an excuse to push you away again in the future.

Result: You feel undesirable, unwanted, and unlovable. You believe no one else would want you and cling to this abusive woman, grateful for whatever scraps of infrequent affection she shows you.

9) Withholding affection and sex. This is another form of rejection and emotional blackmail. It’s not just about sex, it’s about withholding physical, psychological, and emotional nurturing. It includes a lack of interest in what’s important to you–your job, family, friends, hobbies, activities–and being uninvolved, emotionally detached or shut down with you.

Result: You have a transactional relationship in which you have to perform tasks, buy her things, “be nice to her,” or give into her demands in order to receive love and affection from her. You don’t feel loved and appreciated for who you are, but for what you do for her or buy her.

10) Isolating. She demands or acts in ways that cause you to distance yourself from your family, friends, or anyone that would be concerned for your well-being or a source of support. This typically involves verbally trashing your friends and family, being overtly hostile to your family and friends, or acting out and starting arguments in front of others to make it as unpleasant as possible for them to be around the two of you.

Result: This makes you completely dependent upon her. She takes away your outside sources of support and/or controls the amount of interaction you have with them. You’re left feeling trapped and alone, afraid to tell anyone what really goes on in your relationship because you don’t think they’ll believe you.

You don’t have to accept emotional abuse in your relationship. You can get help or you can end it. Most emotionally abusive women don’t want help. They don’t think they need it. They are the professional victims, bullies, narcissists, and borderlines. They’re abusive personality types and don’t know any other way to act in relationships.

Life is too short to spend one more second in this kind of relationship. If your partner won’t admit she has a problem and agree to get help, real help, then it’s in your best interest to get support, get out, and stay out.

Life is a Symphony

Matthew 6:9 Opens with a Lesson from Christ given in a Prayer which sheds light on the Whole Purpose of Life.
Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name.
Your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven

The Heavens & the Earth declare Gods Glory

In Genesis 1:14–19, it is written:
And God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of the heaven to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs, and for seasons [Mo'ed = appointed times], and for days, and years: And let them be for lights in the firmament of the heaven to give light upon the earth: and it was so. And God made two great lights; the greater light to rule the day, and the lesser light to rule the night: he made the stars also. 17And God set them in the firmament of the heaven to give light upon the earth, 18And to rule over the day and over the night, and to divide the light from the darkness: and God saw that it was good. 19 And the evening and the morning were the fourth day.

Psalm 147:4He telleth the number of the stars; He calleth them all by their names.

Here we see the evidence that it was GOD Himself, who numbered and named the stars in the constellations of heaven.

In the book of Job, accepted by scholars to be the oldest book in the Bible, we read:

Job 38:4–7
Where wast thou when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if thou hast understanding. Who hath laid the measures thereof, if thou knowest? or who hath stretched the line* upon it? Whereupon are the foundations thereof fastened? or who laid the corner stone thereof; When the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy?


God here is asking Job questions about the planet Earth and the stars that Job cannot answer. Farther along in Chapter 38, God asks:

Job 38:31–33a
Canst thou bind the sweet influences of Pleiades, or loose the bands of Orion? Canst thou bring forth Mazzaroth in his season? or canst thou guide Arcturus with his sons? Knowest thou the ordinances of heaven?

Here, God mentions several of the star constellations by name.
Mazzaroth is literally "the ZODIAC".

Speaking of the Planets and Constellations in Psalm 19, God says:

The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament showeth his handywork.
Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night showeth knowledge.
There is no speech nor language, where their voice is not heard.
Their line* is gone out through all the earth, and their words to the end of the world. In them hath he set a tabernacle for the sun,
Which is as a bridegroom coming out of his chamber, and rejoiceth as a strong man to run a race.

His going forth is from the end of the heaven, and his circuit unto the ends of it: and there is nothing hid from the heat thereof.

Therefore we know we can trust there is a BEcause behind every event in life like an Instrument in an Orchestra

Jeremiah 1:5 Said...
Before I formed you in the belly I knew you; and before you came forth out of the womb I sanctified you,

Rom 8:29-30 says..
For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren. 30 Moreover whom He predestined, these He also called; whom He called, these He also justified; and whom He justified, these He also glorified.

2 Thess 2:13
But we ought always to thank God for you, brothers loved by the Lord, because from the beginning God chose you to be saved through the sanctifying work of the Spirit and through belief in the truth.

Eph 1:11
In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will

The Presidents Legacy

Aug 4th"Happy Birthday Mr. President"


His INTANGIBLES
Sun/life style-Leo Means Intellectual,Passionate,Authoritative
Moon/behavior-Gemini Means Emotional,Communicative,Agreeable
Mercury/mentality-Leo Means Intellectual,Passionate,Authoritative
Venus/relationship-Cancer Means Emotional,Sensitive,Charismatic
Mars/Assertiveness-Virgo Means Intellectual,Organized, Agreeable
Jupiter/Philosophy-Aquarius Means Theoretical,Communicative, Authoritative
Saturn/Ethics-Capricorn Means Theoretical,Organized,Charismatic
Uranus/Essentially-Leo Means Theoretical,Passionate,Authoritative
Neptune/Illusions-Scorpio Means Intellectual,sensitive,Authoritative
Pluto/transformation-Virgo Means Intellectual,Organized,Agreeable

What I'm about to say is a bit radical and could be upsetting: I have some discouraging news for our community. The fact that the President has two soft spots in his Intangibles makes him an easy person to influence. Notice His Moon & Mars and consider what each represents makes him the Perfect one to control by his peers. The Former two Presidents did not have these soft spots in their Intangibles at the same points. (Not even Kennedy)

In the eyes of the Government our Presidents purpose has been served and satisfied...that was to be accepted as the 1st African decent President. That will be his Legacy( if he wants to live and talk about it). Consider what has happened to the leaders that have tried to bring True Change? Lincoln, Kennedy,King,X,Sadat. This is not as simple as it looks, this is deep rooted.They want him to be a one term President. His agenda was to bring CHANGE. His slogan was YES WE CAN! Well the POWERS that be have sat him down and privately told him "this is the way its going to be or else"! You have to consider the agenda the President is up against and what it means for his Life & Family. He can't afford to be brazened like Clinton or Bush, he's not apart of the Club (every move he makes he will be reminded of that). He has to take his orders. They are working against any type of change and they have told him NO YOU CAN'T! We have to be satisfied with what has been accomplished at this point and all the changes this country needs will not be permitted or accomplished on his watch.

The African American community is seeing this in a very limited view, selfishly reacting to our own wants & needs unaware of his true circumstances. His purpose has been served. He'll have to continue his vision in another way but not as President.

The Nature of it all

From Molly Cliborne

Is there room for God in astrology
Recently in a radio interview, Living Successfully host Bob Keeton asked me the question “Is astrology a cult?”

I never before realized how profound and important this question is. What exactly is astrology, and how does it relate to spirituality? When a fellow seeker asked on my online forum, “Is there room for God in astrology?” I knew it was time to write this article.

Is there room for God in astrology? You might as well ask if there is room for God in botany. It’s true that spiritual and/or religious people often work with astrology. However, you do not have to believe in a higher power to study and use astrology, any more than you would to study a flower blooming. Astrology is not a question of faith, but a fact of life, like the rising and setting of the Sun, the phases of the Moon, and the tides.

Common among world religions is belief in a creator, an infinite benevolent presence that is so large and intricate that the human mind cannot understand the entirety of it. This creator fashioned the universe with the heavens in synch with Earth. And this is where astrology fits in with almost all religious or spiritual beliefs—it is the study of the synchronicity of heaven and earth.

It is said that each of us carries a small piece of the divine within us, also known as the soul. The soul incarnates in human or animal form in order to help others, or to learn more about the nature of existence through interaction with others. It is only when the conscious mind cooperates with the soul’s needs that we find true happiness in life. Resisting or ignoring these needs leads to a feeling of emptiness, “there must be more to life than this.” An astrological chart, when applied in a spiritual context, is a “roadmap” that suggests concrete ways for an individual to engage and work with the soul.

Astrology is the a reflection of creation in a Planetary painting. It cant tell you any more than a Mirror. Over thousands of years, humans have noticed synchronicity between planetary patterns, and natural and social activity on Earth. The cycle of day/night, the four seasons, and the tides are the most obvious examples. But there are other more subtle patterns as well. Astrologers draw from a reservoir of knowledge, collected over several millennia of human experience, and then use their knowledge to help themselves or others.

It is possible to use this knowledge to further selfish interests as well as spiritual awareness. Consider our botanist for a moment. Her tree has many uses—she can build furniture with it, burn it for light and warmth, sit beneath it for shade and comfort, eat fruit from it, or simply embrace it, forming a connection by which she can access the divine. Likewise, Astrology has many different applications. There are spiritual or karmic astrologers, psychological astrologers, financial, medical, relocation astrologers, astrologers who make predictions. There are even astrologers who forecast weather by the planetary patterns.

This idea is commonly misunderstood, as astrology has a reputation for being, at best, a titillating parlor game, in which the “fortune teller” predicts events in the querent’s future. This can make the idea of a chart reading seem daunting. Occasionally people say to me, “I’d rather not know,” because they fear I will tell them something bad will happen.

But the idea prevalent in modern psychological and spiritual astrology is that the stars impel, they do not compel. We can use astrology to read energies, tendencies or influences present in a person’s life, but we cannot say how that person will use them. I can tell you that a storm is coming, but what you’ll do with that information—whether you’ll plant a garden, buy an umbrella, or run outdoors with a lightning rod—is your decision.

Unlike God, Astrologers do not have all the answers—but can help others see parts of themselves and Life that are hidden.

Season of birth reflects personality, scientists find

From Fiona Macrae

Being born in the summer could give you a sunny disposition for life.
And a winter birthday might cast a permanent shadow over your happiness, scientists believe.
Experiments suggest that season of birth dramatically affects the way the speed at which the body clock ticks.
A winter birth could leave it moving too slowly – affecting health and personality


Finally, they were plunged into darkness and watched to see how they would react.
Those reared in summer conditions kept to a daily routine, but those brought up in little light struggled to cope with the change, the journal Nature Neuroscience reports.
Researcher Professor Douglas McMahon said: ‘The mice raised in the winter cycle
show an exaggerated response to a change in season that is strikingly similar to that of human patients suffering from seasonal affective disorder.’

Further research is needed to see how quickly after birth the biological clock is set and whether the effect is temporary or permanent.


Despite this, the finding raises the intriguing possibility that the amount of light to which the human brain is exposed in the first weeks or months of life affects mood.
The professor said: ‘Our biological clocks measure the day length and change our behaviour according to the seasons.
‘Several studies show that people born in the winter months have an elevated risk of mood disorders such as seasonal depression, bipolar depression and schizophrenia – all of which are associated with disruption of normal circadian rhythms.
‘Whether seasonal birth could impact personality and mood is speculative, but not too far-fetched. Even though this sounds a bit like astrology, it is not: it’s seasonal biology.’

Previous studies have linked winter births to food allergies, possibly because of lack of the ‘sunshine vitamin’ D.
But being born in the summer can have drawbacks – such as an increased risk of short-sightedness.
Is thought that sunshine interferes with the delicate development of the eye, making focusing difficult and distant objects appear blurred.
Another study of more than 1.5million children in the U.S. clearly showed that those conceived in the summer are less clever than other youngsters.
It is thought that they receive more exposure to pesticides during the first few months of pregnancy – a critical time for brain development.


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1335977/Summer-babies-sunnier-outlook-Season-birth-affect-body-clock-scientists-find.html#ixzz1OVPoMm00

Having Mood Swings?

From Chennai based K.B.Gopalakrishnan

Many of so called new age guru try to make people happy. There is nothing wrong in that. The fact is happiness is beyond the control of normal human will. In fact I told a student of mine that 80% of the time people experience mood swings due to external factors. She was quite shocked. I told her that after 12 o clock I saw lot of shift in energy in the astral world and most people would have experienced mood swings which include her. She was not all surprised and when I asked her she said that I was different from others.

Any way coming to the main point I will give another example. There was lady who called me up from Punjab saying she was disturbed and want to commit suicide. I told her to light lamp and incense, have salt water bath and then do deep breathing. She recovered very fast. I asked her if she had picked up some one thought on the same frequency. She said “actually you are right. I have been listening to all this kind of crap in the last two days”.

• Timing – certain times people are prone to mood swings for example tithi’s like pratipada, shasthi, astami navami, trayodasai, amvasaya and purnima, in terms of days Saturday and Sunday trigger mood swings. Rahu kalam and nakahstra of mars and rahu will also trigger. When transit moon touches transit rahu and mars will also trigger. This will surprise most of Freudian people who never connected time with depression and mental illness.

• Pirtu paksha – during amavsaya and pitru paksha most of the lower astral world easily opens up. Many people will get depressed.

• Mass death – when mass of people dying like tsunami, earth quakes or market crash, it will swing the mood of the world. It is like going death house where you will pick up their negative feelings. Just one lakh people getting upset can upset crore of people lives.

• Possession of spirit – when one goes to bar or some lower consciousness place people do get possessed. That is why when some one drinks they behave beyond all civility. One day my teacher showed me the ad of amtiaba bachan becoming spirit and using some one to eat Cadbury as an example.

• When some one close family members suffer- one person told me that when some close relative died in India and though he was in USA without getting any information he was feeling depressed for few days. One person use to have mood swing when ever his brother had schizophrenia attacks.

• Projection of though form – when you go near a women who has just finished her periods we will get sexually excited. The ojas which oozes from her body has that quality. You should be careful. In the same way when you hurt some one and if the person has strong mind you can get affected with out any reason.

• Pick up other person feelings – this can happen in mass place like movie, parking lot, shopping mall or listening to some one negative story.

Certain other external phenomenon like mars coming closer to earth or Venus cutting across sun disc or mock sun or dark halo around the sun can alter the mood of the world.

If you see globe as one unit and then it is easy to understand why these kind of phenomenon happens. Just telling you are owner of thoughts shows very limited way of talking.

I was explaining this to a girl that human being are like small bubble where a huge beam of light falls on it. The color of bubble change according to beam. In the same way human mind can be influenced by strong beam which he or she has no control.

Of course psychic self defense, aura shielding, salt water bath can help a lot if you understand easily.

Is There Eternal Life?

After Jesus said this, he looked toward heaven and pray “Father, the hour has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify you. For you granted him authority over all people that he might give eternal life to all those you have given him. Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent. I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do. And now, Father, glorify me in your presence with the glory I had with you before the world began.

“My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me.I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one—in them and you in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.

“Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world. “Righteous Father, though the world does not know you, I know you, and they know that you have sent me. I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them.” John 17

Is it free Will or Free Choice?

If there's Multiple Choice ( prepared paths to choose from) is there such a thing as free will or should we call it free choice? But to each path remains the same will for your life just different lessons along the way that lead to What God has already chose and prepared for you. {In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps}. Prv 16:9

{“I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world. They were yours; you gave them to me and they have obeyed your word. Now they know that everything you have given me comes from you. For I gave them the words you gave me and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from you, and they believed that you sent me. I pray for them.I am not praying for the world, but for those you have given me, for they are yours.All I have is yours, and all you have is mine. And glory has come to me through them. I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name, the name you gave me, so that they may be one as we are one. While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name you gave me. None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled.} John 17

The Lords Prayer begins with Acknowledging He who created all things and Submitting to what is intended for us (Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be Thy name. Thy kingdom come.Thy will be done on earth, as it is in heaven.) could it be that His will is Indicated in each of our lives when we see a Life Map (Natal Chart)? Can it be that actually it is free Choice Not free Will? The Good Book States {The LORD works out everything for his own ends--even the wicked for a day of disaster.} If we have free Will Shouldn't we have control over our destiny? Why wouldn't Jesus take Will into his Own hands? Why did He obey the Will of the Father by choosing what the Father intended? If Jesus Is God Why couldn't He change his Path? Notice how the Will and the Father are one and the same? The Choices have been provided for us pertaining to Gods will for our Life as Stated in the Good Book {No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.} Which ever we choose it all leads to what God has Prepared for us Before we were Born {"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;} Until we understand the only way to Pass the course At Earth University is to Complete that Assignments designed for us By the Divine Instructor the Author of Intelligent Design. There is Only One Will with Many Choices to accomplish the Goal but we must remain Loyal to our Instructor and His assignment for us. The Choices we make shape us but in the end we are what He always intended for us.

Generation X'd " Have we Failed as Parents"?

The little wagon seemed abandoned. So when Ada Calhoon’s 1-year-old son spotted it during an outing to a neighborhood park, he began playing with it. But almost immediately, they heard a little boy on a far-away swing set shriek “Noooooooooooo!” sending his mom storming toward them. “Rather than saying, ‘We’re swinging now. You can let that baby look at your wagon,’ [the mother] took the wagon out of my son’s hands and brought it to her son in the swing,” says Calhoun, the editor-in-chief of the popular parenting Web site Babble.com. It wasn’t the child’s fit that left Calhoun speechless: It was the mother’s. Parenting blogs — and grandparents — echo that shock. A commenter on a recent New York Times’ blog recounted seeing a preschooler purposely trip a woman in a crowded restaurant, and chortle, “‘Mommy, did you see me trip that woman? I tripped her!’” — with no corrective measure from the mother. On Grandparents.com, a mortified grandmother recently asked for advice on how to handle her grandson’s relentless public insulting of his own mother, who apparently seemed unable or unwilling to stand up to the mistreatment.

Many experts say today’s kids are ruder than ever. And it may have something to do with popular parenting movements focusing on self-esteem and the generation that’s embracing them: Generation X, or those born between 1965 and 1979. On paper, it doesn’t add up. After all, by many accounts Generation X may be the most devoted parents in American history. They are champions of "attachment parenting," the school of child-rearing that calls for a high level of closeness between parents and children, Many Gen-X parents co-sleep with their children, hold them back from entering kindergarten if they feel their children’s emotional maturity is at stake and volunteer at their kids' schools at record rates.

Gen-X moms have been famously criticized by early feminists for dropping out of the workforce to care for their young children. Yet, their kids are, well, rude. It may be that today’s parents are so fixated on their children's emotional well-being that they’re teaching them that the well-being of others is comparatively unimportant, says Dr. Philippa Gordon, a long-time pediatrician in Park Slope, Brooklyn, an urban New York neighborhood famous for its dense Gen-X parent population. Parents 'ferociously advocating' “I see parents ferociously advocating for their children, responding with hostility to anyone they perceive as getting in the child's way — from a person whose dog snuffles inquiringly at a baby in a carriage, to a teacher or coach whom they perceive is slighting their child, to a poor, hapless doctor who cannot cure the common cold,” says Gordon. “There is a feeling that anything interfering with their kid's homeostasis, as they see it, is an inappropriate behavior to be fended off sharply.” Such defensiveness represents a radical departure from Gen X’s parental forebears, who, experts say, were more concerned about their children’s behavior toward others, rather than the other way around. But it also may highlight what makes many of today's parents tick, as a group — specifically, how they themselves grew up.

Many researchers consider members of Generation X to have been among the least nurtured children in American history with half coming from split families, 40 percent raised as latchkey kids — literally, home alone. “They are trying to heal the wounds from their own childhoods through their children,” says Dr. Michael Brody, a child psychiatrist and chair of the Television and Media Committee of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. In indulging their children’s moods, Brody argues, some parents may be trying to protect their children from experiencing the kind of anxiety and neglect that they themselves suffered as youngsters.

Attachment parenting or enmeshment? But not being able to separate their own feelings from their children’s has its costs. “Generation X parents seem to have mistaken emotional ‘enmeshment’ for ‘attachment parenting,’” he says. To be fair, such a response comes from an understandable place. “Our parents, the Boomers, didn’t pay so much attention to us — they were getting divorced and working and respecting independence, so they left us a lot of times to Scooby Doo,” says Calhoun. “But we’re going a bit far in the other direction and paying so much attention that we’re picking up on every blip in our kids’ whims.” But not all this can be laid at Generation X’s door. Dr. Susan Linn, who teaches psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and is director of the Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood, points out that children learn societal values not just through parental modeling, but also from the stories and toys passed on to them. “Commercial culture tends to glorify negative behaviors on the continuum from rudeness to violence,” says Linn. “Anti-social behaviors capture the attention of viewers and add to audience share, and in a world where physical violence reigns, rudeness seems ordinary — it becomes a behavioral norm.” Just take a quick survey the most popular commercial offerings for kids, Linn says. On "American Idol," which, according to Nielsen ratings, is a top program among 2- to 11-year-old viewers, the judges aren’t just rude but truly scathing to contestants. And, of course, a best-selling line of dolls is, literally, named Bratz. That message pales in comparison to the video game franchise “Grand Theft Auto,” a perennial best-seller among teens and pre-teens who spend hours engaging in virtual behaviors ranging from bullying to having sex with a prostitute and then killing her. Younger siblings who emulate their older brothers and sisters are peripherally, but routinely, exposed to such violence in large numbers, says Linn. Preschool delinquents? It is also worth underlining that rudeness can have more serious behavioral consequences. As a 2005 Yale study demonstrated, preschool students are expelled at a rate more than three times that of children in grades K-12 because of behavioral problems.

What does this mean for their future as adults? We may be starting to see some of the effects in Generation Y, those born between 1980 and 1996, whose self-centered — if not downright arrogant — workplace behavior has been well-documented in the popular press since the mid-2000s. "They've grown up questioning their parents, and now they're questioning their employers. They don't know how to shut up, which is great, but that's aggravating to the 50-year-old manager who says, 'Do it and do it now,' " says Jordan Kaplan, an associate managerial science professor at Long Island University-Brooklyn in New York, in a USA Today article. As for today’s little kids? “No one will want to hire them,” says Brody. That's not an encouraging thought, especially in these economic times. Economic climate does seem to have an effect on manners. Indeed, some experts believe that trend of rudeness among kids first emerged with the rise of Wall Street and its culture of entitlement in the mid-1980s, which is when Generation X began having children. It has been building since then, they say. But today’s downturn may inspire renewed prudence. “I think that people who lose their wealth, their jobs, and other emblems of success that gave them a mindless assurance about their social status — plus with the new standards in the White House — may examine their values more seriously,” predicts pediatrician Gordon. “It will be less easy to fob off your inner questions by purchasing an expensive education, summer camp or horseback riding classes.” It may also be easier if Gen X parents start implementing the popular campaign that they grew up with themselves: “Just say ‘No.’ ”

http://www.thegenxfiles.com/2009/05/07/generation-x-as-parents-wildly-overprotective/

Intelligent Design

from Dianne Eppler Adams
Astrology, it seems, is only now coming out of the "dark ages." While most other intellectual and scientific fields rode a wave of advancement at the time of the 18th century Enlightenment, Astrology was reduced to a place of ridicule as a form of chicanery. Science and religion, if they could not agree on anything else, at least agreed that Astrology had no merit. Interesting that such unity should exist between them, while in every other way science and religion have been adversaries.

The fact that science and religion are now beginning to find some areas of agreement and the fact that Astrology is also finding renewed interest is no coincidence. It is due, I believe, to the important role Astrology plays in the understanding of life on Earth. Astrology, in its holistic approach to the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual cycles of life, is a bridge between the science of the physical world and the religion of the spiritual world. I want to explore the religious basis of Astrology. Since in many parts of the world some form of Astrology is well accepted (e.g., Iraq, Iran, India, Tibet), let’s focus on the predominant religions of the Western world, Christianity and Judaism.

Beginning our search for the religious basis of Astrology, we begin at the first book, first chapter of the Bible, the sacred text for Christians and Jews. In Genesis 1:14, the 4th day of creation is described: "And God said, ‘Let there be lights in the firmament of the heavens to separate the day from the night, and let them be signs (my emphasis) and for seasons and for days and years.’" Before man was created, God set the heavenly bodies in the sky "for signs" or for guidance. The planets do not cause us to do things or control us but instead reveal the wisdom of the Divine Intelligence that created both man and the heavenly bodies, as "signs."

Psalms 19:1-2 could not be a clearer celebration of the magnificence of the heavens and the wonder of their message and meaning: "The heavens are telling the glory of God; and the firmament proclaims his handiwork. Day to day pours forth speech, and night to night declares knowledge." It is the "speech" and the "knowledge" that Astrologers are interpreting when you get a reading.

Matthew, recording the significance of Jesus’ birth, wrote of the astrologers, also known as wise men (from present day Iraq), who came to worship Jesus when he was born. They had been studying the heavens and "came to Jerusalem saying, ‘Where is he who has been born King of the Jews? For we have seen his star in the East and have come to worship him’" (Matthew 2:1-2). Astrology played an important role in announcing Jesus’ birth and proving his divinity. In fact, Jesus himself, when describing his return, indicated that "there will be signs in sun and moon and stars…" (Luke 21:25).

Some Christians condemn Astrology as false prophesy, yet Paul urged in I Thessalonians 5:20-22: "do not despise prophesying, but test everything, hold fast what is good, abstain from every form of evil." In truth, Astrology is no more false prophesy than the weather report. Like the weatherman, an Astrologer can suggest what the "physical, emotional, intellectual or spiritual weather" may be like in the coming months. But free will always reigns supreme. The ability to read "the signs in sun and moon and stars" gives insight into timing of cycles, since it is written that "for everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven" (Ecc 3:1). This understanding enhances mankind’s ability to exercise wisdom with his free will, to prepare for challenging times, and to seek balance during times of success and opportunity.

Clearly, God created Astrology for mankind. It enhances free will and assists in our ability to read "the signs" that he has created for our evolving understanding of our life and purpose on Earth.

Eyes the Windshields of the Soul

From Boonsri Dickinson
Mats Larsson, a psychology graduate student at Örebro University in Sweden has linked iris patterns to personality traits. Larsson took photos of 428 volunteers’ eyes and administered a standard personality test. He then counted the frequency of crypts (squiggly lines radiating out from the pupil) and furrows (circular lines curving around the outer edge of the iris). He found that a low frequency of crypts was significantly associated with tender-mindedness, warmth, trust, and positive emotions, whereas more distinct and extended furrows were associated with impulsiveness.

His results might seem strange, but Larsson notes that earlier studies have tenuously linked darker eyes to higher scores on extroversion, neuroticism, and sociability, although the effects seem to fade after early childhood. And, he adds, brain and eye development are closely linked in utero, so the appearance of distinctive eye traits might well be related to patterns of brain differences. For example, Larsson points to a gene called PAX6, which controls iris tissue growth. Intriguingly, mutations in PAX6 have also been linked with high rates of unusual behavior, including poor impulse control and abnormalities in associated brain structures, like the left cingulate cortex. Still, cautions Larsson, looking deep into people’s eyes won’t give you irrefutable insight into their personality. “We’ve only looked at group effects,” he says. “It’s not possible to describe an individual’s personality from our data.”

The invisible epidemic

From J. Douglas Bremner, M.D

The invisible epidemic of childhood abuse and other psychological traumas and stressors represents a major public health problem in our society today. Childhood sexual abuse alone affects 16% of women (about 40 million) in the U.S.A. (including rape, attempted rape, or molestation) at some time before their 18th birthday.1

Childhood abuse is the most common cause of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in women, which affects 8% of the population at some time in their lives,2 although there are a range of other types of psychological trauma that can also lead to symptoms of chronic PTSD, including car accidents, combat, rape and assault. Some of the symptoms of PTSD, which include intrusive memories, nightmares, flashbacks, increased startle and vigilance, social impairment and problems with memory and concentration, may be related to the effects of extreme stress on the brain.3,4

Individuals with a history of exposure to childhood abuse or combat had a reduction in volume of a brain area involved in learning and memory called the hippocampus, which is felt to be related to stress, with associated deficits in hippocampal-based learning and memory.5 Children under stress develop impairments in academic achievement that are specifically related to the development of PTSD. Other symptoms, including fragmentation of memory, intrusive memories, flashbacks, dissociation and pathological emotions, may also be related to hippocampal dysfunction6 and may explain delayed recall of childhood abuse.7 The hippocampus has important links to the medial prefrontal cortex, another brain area that mediates emotion and the stress response, dysfunction of which has also been implicated in PTSD.

Effects of psychological trauma on the hippocampus and memory

Childhood abuse and other extreme stressors can have lasting effects on brain areas involved in memory and emotion. The hippocampus is a brain area involved in learning and memory that is particularly sensitive to stress.8,9 As reviewed in greater detail by Bruce McEwen in other Cyberounds high levels of glucocorticoids (cortisol in the human) released during stress were associated with damage to neurons in the CA3 region of the hippocampus, and a loss of neurons and dendritic branching.10,11,12 Glucocorticoids disrupt cellular metabolism and increase the vulnerability of hippocampal neurons to excitatory amino acids like glutamate.13 Other neurochemical systems interact with glucocorticoids to mediate the effects of stress on memory and the hippocampus, including serotonin14 and brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF).15,16 Stress also results in deficits in new learning that are secondary to damage to the hippocampus.17,18 Exciting recent research has shown that the hippocampus has the capacity to regenerate neurons and that stress inhibits neurogenesis in the hippocampus.19

Studies in animals showing glucocorticoid-mediated hippocampal toxicity and memory dysfunction with stress raised the question: Does early stress, such as childhood abuse, result in similar deficits in human subjects? With this in mind, we used neuropsychological testing to measure declarative memory function in PTSD. We selected measures that were validated in studies of patients with epilepsy to be specific probes of hippocampal function. These neuropsychological measures (including delayed paragraph recall and word list learning) were correlated with a loss of neurons in the hippocampus in patients who underwent surgical resection of the hippocampus for the treatment of epilepsy.20 We initially found verbal declarative memory deficits using similar measures in Vietnam combat veterans with PTSD.21

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How Break ups effect Men

The effects of marital breakdown on guys have been recognized, but strangely not advertised anyway near as much as the effects on ladies. Women of course struggle and go through many of the same troubles guys go through and loads of different tribulations as well, however the stresses that are placed on the mental well being of a man is not as well understood. Until we look closer into their birth nature.

Perhaps the populace simply has the quaint thought that males will survive as we always do, as if it is just in our nature to endure without any troubles (this is of course total trash). Or if you are a cynic, then you might attribute a focused effort of the media and feminist groups who want to promote females over males. I myself cannot be that cynical however, but I think that this is a part of the problem. Then of course there is simply us guys and our often immovable temperament to not seek assistance and not converse about the problems we face. Combining all these things leads to a lack of info for males going through a rough divorce. So I'll speak about the effects of marital breakdown on men.

Emotional Struggle
This is the chief part of the entire angst-ridden muddle of divorce. Losing our matrimony takes a serious toll on a mans mental state as lots of have fixed so much of their identities and soul into their marriage even if it was not a faultless union. When I went through my Emotional breakup it happened so gradually by time we actually divorced I ignored the signs and expected to recover in no time, but in actuality I was going through a total life catastrophe, job change, financial trouble enough to put all my masculine confidence to the test before long I was experiencing a few of the harmful ways that came to light: If you don't get therapy it can quickly become baggage.

* Major depression

* Bravado is substituted for true masculinity

* Anger & regret

* Suspicion & Self Doubt

* Suicidal Thoughts

* Emasculation

* Fear & Stress

As you can now fathom, if a guy is feeling a number of these problems his mental state, and his life in general, will become a total mess. Enduring this and just moving on cannot be done so straightforwardly when you don’t have a family, a home, and a caring companion left to sustain you. The rug gets pulled out from under a mans feet and the more you try to bury these emotional tribulations the worse they get. According to your our dominate trait the expectation can be even more devastating. Fire signs Can go through brief moments of disillusion as they celebrate their new found independence only to come crashing down from loneliness. We all experience every symptom of depression but the actual solution lies in where the pain begins and why.

Money tribulations
I think this is secondary to the emotional tribulations but clearly alimony, child support, dividing up the family assets, and all other costs involved in divorce hit a man hard. If the guy was the main worker for the family this can also rouse a certain bitterness which is something lots of males take to their grave rather than fixing. a lot of males find themselves in a situation of being middle aged and feeling like they are now struggling like they once did when they were much younger despite a better career or business. If they have job troubles due to the break up and the emotions you are feelign can increase these worries even more. Earth Sign expect to be secure in the most practical of ways (Job,relationship and Finances).

Parenthood problems and Hurt Kids
Children of course have their own concerns through divorce, but a guys sense of being a good father is often shattered by separation as well. Most dads end up losing the little ones and must be content with visitation rights on the weekend if that. This can make you question your worthiness of being a dad and can hurt emotionally and socially as humanity as a whole seems to frown upon them as if it is their fault for the marital breakdown and that they cannot care for kids.

Loss of Identity
This is a huge one. To be divorced after putting so much of your life into constructing your marriage, your family, your identity of being a spouse, and perhaps a father too; this is stripped away in just a few moments when you finally realise that the break up is final and you are no longer who you thought you are. Theoretical Signs (Sag,Cap,Aqua,Pisc) are most deeply traumatized by divorce simply for the reason that they are idealistic and prone to obsession and depression. When their dreams are shattered their life soon follows.

When is Confidence developed?

What is Self Doubt?
Can we live an effective and successful life without self Confidence? Who is responsible for developing our self confidence? What role does family life play in building self confidence? How do we express our confidence through our Astrological traits?Self Doubt begins with a Lack of self Confidence but when does it all begin? Depending on your birth trait lacking self confidence is manifested in different attitudes.

Self-confidence and Making Mistakes
Some mothers shout at their children as soon as they break anything, stain their clothes, forget to do their chores or any other minor mistake. Treating a child in this way results in him thinking that doing something wrong is shameful and that making mistakes makes him different from other perfect people who do not make mistakes. When this child grows up and makes a certain mistake in front in public, like dropping a glass or having something go wrong during a presentation, it appears to him as an embarrassing situation and will cause him to think that he is not up to the standard of other people. These kinds of thoughts will gradually but surely damage his confidence.


A parent's role should be building self-confidence in their children by encouraging them to try new things and not to be afraid of making mistakes. The parent should teach them that, as a human being, error's are unavoidable; so it's best to accept your mistakes without criticizing or labeling yourself.