The effects of marital breakdown on guys have been recognized, but strangely not advertised anyway near as much as the effects on ladies. Women of course struggle and go through many of the same troubles guys go through and loads of different tribulations as well, however the stresses that are placed on the mental well being of a man is not as well understood. Until we look closer into their birth nature.
Perhaps the populace simply has the quaint thought that males will survive as we always do, as if it is just in our nature to endure without any troubles (this is of course total trash). Or if you are a cynic, then you might attribute a focused effort of the media and feminist groups who want to promote females over males. I myself cannot be that cynical however, but I think that this is a part of the problem. Then of course there is simply us guys and our often immovable temperament to not seek assistance and not converse about the problems we face. Combining all these things leads to a lack of info for males going through a rough divorce. So I'll speak about the effects of marital breakdown on men.
Emotional Struggle
This is the chief part of the entire angst-ridden muddle of divorce. Losing our matrimony takes a serious toll on a mans mental state as lots of have fixed so much of their identities and soul into their marriage even if it was not a faultless union. When I went through my Emotional breakup it happened so gradually by time we actually divorced I ignored the signs and expected to recover in no time, but in actuality I was going through a total life catastrophe, job change, financial trouble enough to put all my masculine confidence to the test before long I was experiencing a few of the harmful ways that came to light: If you don't get therapy it can quickly become baggage.
* Major depression
* Bravado is substituted for true masculinity
* Anger & regret
* Suspicion & Self Doubt
* Suicidal Thoughts
* Emasculation
* Fear & Stress
As you can now fathom, if a guy is feeling a number of these problems his mental state, and his life in general, will become a total mess. Enduring this and just moving on cannot be done so straightforwardly when you don’t have a family, a home, and a caring companion left to sustain you. The rug gets pulled out from under a mans feet and the more you try to bury these emotional tribulations the worse they get. According to your our dominate trait the expectation can be even more devastating. Fire signs Can go through brief moments of disillusion as they celebrate their new found independence only to come crashing down from loneliness. We all experience every symptom of depression but the actual solution lies in where the pain begins and why.
Money tribulations
I think this is secondary to the emotional tribulations but clearly alimony, child support, dividing up the family assets, and all other costs involved in divorce hit a man hard. If the guy was the main worker for the family this can also rouse a certain bitterness which is something lots of males take to their grave rather than fixing. a lot of males find themselves in a situation of being middle aged and feeling like they are now struggling like they once did when they were much younger despite a better career or business. If they have job troubles due to the break up and the emotions you are feelign can increase these worries even more. Earth Sign expect to be secure in the most practical of ways (Job,relationship and Finances).
Parenthood problems and Hurt Kids
Children of course have their own concerns through divorce, but a guys sense of being a good father is often shattered by separation as well. Most dads end up losing the little ones and must be content with visitation rights on the weekend if that. This can make you question your worthiness of being a dad and can hurt emotionally and socially as humanity as a whole seems to frown upon them as if it is their fault for the marital breakdown and that they cannot care for kids.
Loss of Identity
This is a huge one. To be divorced after putting so much of your life into constructing your marriage, your family, your identity of being a spouse, and perhaps a father too; this is stripped away in just a few moments when you finally realise that the break up is final and you are no longer who you thought you are. Theoretical Signs (Sag,Cap,Aqua,Pisc) are most deeply traumatized by divorce simply for the reason that they are idealistic and prone to obsession and depression. When their dreams are shattered their life soon follows.
