Guerilla Women

I see a generation of children being raised by renegade women.

Although Adam was 1st we have to reproduce through the woman. Mothers that are not raising boys properly because the men they choose for fathers are not husbands, leaving their children without leaders in the home. So women can't even find good men anymore because they are not producing good men out of biblical family structures. So the problem today are woman their philosophies on life and her choices of who she reproduces with and how she cultivates the off spring of the men she chooses. Until this is corrected evil generations will continue to thrive. Those children grow up to become tomorrows fathers & mothers with no knowledge of God or examples of Family

Out-Manning your Man

From Rori Raye & Divine Caroline

Are you a woman with a lot going for her in all areas except in love and relationships? Do men stop calling or withdraw after a few dates or tell you they’re not interested or don’t feel the right chemistry with you?

Your intelligence and ambition may have gotten you where you are in your life and career, but are those same qualities intimidating to men?

The truth is that success and independence are actually attractive qualities to a man. Men are not intimidated by smart women. They can, however, be intimidated and turned off by the way you’re relating to him. You may be failing in love because of your energy, not because you’re smart and have your act together.

One sure way to lose a man’s interest is to make ourselves “smaller” or “less-than” so we don’t intimidate him. We play down our strengths, successes, and abilities because we think that men are competitive and want to be better than we are at everything. It’s simply not true!

If you’re a successful woman, revel in your success and happiness! Run everything at work, be firm, be tough, be managerial and multi-tasking. But when you’re on a date with a man, or at home, or hanging out together, don’t try to run or manage him.

There are subtle ways you may be doing this that completely emasculates a man and makes him feel not only terrible about himself, but turns him away from you. For example, he’ll tell you about a problem he’s having and you say, “You should do this …” or “If I were you, I wouldn’t do that …” This makes him feel managed—like he’s a child and you’re his mother. This isn’t a good feeling for a man. He wants to feel respected and admired, not mothered.

No man wants to be in a relationship with a woman that makes him feel like a child or with a woman who acts very masculine. When you take charge, have opinions about everything—including where you go and what you do—and what you think about him, you are displaying masculine energy.

You can be a doing, thinking, take-charge kind of woman at work, but in your love life, you should be a feeling, being and expressing kind of woman. This relationship enewsletter provides great suggestions for letting him be a man.

You can let a man know what you want and need by simply saying, “I’d like that” or “I don’t want that” or “that would feel good to me.” When he asks you where you’d like to go this weekend, you could say, “It would feel good to me to spend time outside enjoying the sun. I don’t want to stay stuck inside all day.”

Trying to Manage the Relationship
Being a woman means taking charge of your own life, but letting him run the relationship.

If that sounds odd and unfair and plainly not at all about female empowerment. But here’s a new way to look at this: Love isn’t a management opportunity. When a man pulls away from us, going after him and trying to “talk it out” to get him back full-force again is the kiss of death for your relationship, not the spark that will re-ignite it.

Save management for your life outside your relationship with a man—your time, your money, your work, your environment. A man is not a chair. You can’t move him around and decorate him and sit on him and make opinions about him and tell him where to stand and expect him to feel anything but friendship or obligation toward you. That means don’t tell him what he should wear, don’t give him advice on his career, and don’t tell him what he should think about a certain topic.

To love, a man needs to be swimming in a sea of emotion; your emotion, shared willingly and openly. Your feelings are your compass, not your abilities. Your feelings are the most important part of you, the irresistible feminine part of you. Your feelings are what make you loveable and compellingly attractive to a man, especially if you speak about the way you feel and not about what you think.

So, the next time you’re tempted to manage and arrange things—stop yourself. Look inside your heart and body to find and share what you feel instead. Learn how to express yourself to draw him closer.

Doing too MUCH
One drawback to being an accomplished, smart woman is that you know how to get a whole lot done. Often all at the same time. It’s just easier sometimes to do it yourself than to wait for him to do it.

It’s easier to call him and ask him out and get the movie tickets online and make the plans—all so you don’t have to experience the frustration of watching him do a job that’s less well done than how you’d do it.

The cure for this is to learn to be surprised by a man, and not work so hard to make things happen. A woman who’s busy rowing the “rowboat of love” leaves a man with nothing to do. He either sits back and enjoys the ride, or he does what we tell him to do—and I’ve never met a woman who thought either of those were attractive in a man.

So the next time you’re tempted to pick up those oars and do the work of the relationship—stop yourself. Instead—lean back in that “rowboat of love” and let him row. He will thrive, trust me. Let him decide to row and take the boat where he wants it to go. It’s always your choice to leave if you don’t like where things are going (or not going), but picking up those oars will only sink the boat, and leave you nothing to manage.

I’ve always been a woman who instinctively wants to take charge, and the way I was using those real, genuine strengths was killing my relationships with the men I loved. Over time, I learned how to harness my masculine, take-charge energy to become successful in my work, while basically giving up controlling a man in any way. This is what turned everything around for me nearly overnight. Keep reading to learn how you can do it too.